Matthew 71“Do not judge, or you too will be judged.2For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.3“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?4How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?5You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
So, who are we to judge? What do we know? If God is for us, who can be against us?
Judging is not our job. Judging is not an act done in love. Judging disconnects you from the Lord and His love. If God is for us, it does not matter what anyone else thinks.
This is me preaching why judgment is not necessary, and why you should not take judgement seriously.
Judging someone does not define them, it defines you.
In this world, you will meet people that you do not agree with. You will meet people who will hurt your feelings. You will meet people that tell you negative things about yourself. You will meet people who look for the negative. You will also, not meet people.
What I mean in this is that there are millions on billions of people in this world of whom you will never meet. You will never hear or understand their story. They have a history that you will never know. But, we have a tendency to see someone and say “Oh my goodness, did you see him/her?? (S)He was so _________.”
Why, why, why do we find so much enjoyment in this? That person that you just made fun of or said something negative about? They could have a terrible home life, a disease or disability, a mental health disorder, they might be experiencing a loss, they might live on the streets, they might be in the hardest part of their life that they have and will ever experience.
If you do not know someone, the worst thing to do is to make assumptions. The worst thing to do is to judge a book by it’s cover, cliché, I know. But seriously, the only one that knows how a human truly feels or knows what they are experiencing is Jesus Christ.
The stigma in this world is that we try too hard to fit in, be funny, or become popular. Unfortunately, being a Christian will not simply make you popular today. What will make you popular is you making fun of others to get everyone to laugh, or saying something outside of your character to fit into a group.
Here’s something that the extremely wise Mary McGlade has told me ever since I can remember: “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
We are so quick to judge someone because of their weight, their tattoo, their hair, their sexuality, their religion, their boyfriend or girlfriend, their clothes, their *SO MANY OTHER THINGS THAT ARE NOT ON THE INSIDE.*
To be real, I could not give a single hoot about what you think about my appearance. I will always be the tall girl that only dresses up for formal Monday’s and doesn’t do her hair and eyebrows perfectly daily because, wait for it…. I don’t care.
We talk negatively about the outside and what we see. It is so painful to know that people gain their confidence from tearing down others.
If someone makes a mistake, do not run to all your friends and tell them. Do not be the reasons rumors are going around. I can tell you right now, brothers and sisters, you have made your fair share of mistakes. Shut your mouth, and treat others the way you want to be treated.
If you truly have something to say to someone, speak to them. Tell them your thoughts and feelings. Do not judge them from afar. Get to know someone before you say a single negative phrase about them. There are so many hidden stories in this world, and part of the adventure of this life is getting to hear some.
Build relationships, befriend before you judge, keep your words positive, say what God wants you to say, and soon your life will change due to the positivity that flows from you.When you are positive and have good things to say about everyone, then you are an example of the light. God’s presence shines through you when you knock out the harmful words. The words that you say about someone will resonate with them, we remember the bad things said about us more than we do the good.
That girl you told your friend was “so fat and ugly” could have diabetes or somethings along those lines. That old man that had a “stupid tattoo on his arm” could be a veteran of this country. That lady that had the “disgusting clothes on” and you “can’t believe she went out in public like that” could have been a victim of assault. You do not know what people are going home to, you do not know the pain they experience. You do not know their medical needs. You do not know their past. Walk in their shoes, then see if your judgement stands (teaser, it probably won’t).
That being said, you know nothing about the humans you see everyday. So there is absolutely no reason to be talking about them in any single way other than positive.
When you get judged, don’t take it to heart. That’s not your problem, it’s theirs. God is for you. You should not give a single crap what the people of this earth think about you. As tough as it is to ignore negativity, give it a shot. You are beautiful, you are doing awesome, you are strong, and you can do it. Do not listen to the world, listen to the one that matters.
Do what the heck you want whenever the heck you want with whoever the heck you want, while glorifying God, obviously. This is your life, and whatever other people think about it is absolutely, positively, irrelevant.
WORRY ABOUT YOURSELF. IT IS NOT DIFFICULT, AND IT’S A HECK OF A LOT MORE FUN.
In the end, the only judgement that matters is God’s, I pinky promise.
And my oh my, what a beautiful thing that is.
Let the girls wear all the makeup they want, let people eat what they want and weigh what they want, who cares about how little or how loudly a person talks, why does it matter how out of style someone’s clothes are?
Get over it and let them be happy. Get to know them, cut the judgement, and have a great day.
James 4:12, “There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you–who are you to judge your neighbor?”
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