Here I am, two days after coming home from a weekend in Colorado to see my man, thinking about how worth it he is. This one is for the long distance relationships, and to teach those who doubt them they are so worth it, because this is what true love is.
Long distance relationships get the bad reputations, and I can see why. A year ago, when I lived four minutes away from my boyfriend, I didn’t see how or why LDRs were a thing. It nearly seems impossible or fake, or like cheating would become a lifestyle so that someone else could fulfill your desires while your love was away.
Kick those thoughts out of your brain because that is false.
Literally, so false.
Long distance relationships show you what love is. They teach you how to put effort into someone and how to love them no matter what. They prove that you can be independent if need be, even if you do love having them right there beside you. They make you stronger and build your faith and confidence and love for one another.
LDRs make you realize so much more about the person that you thought you knew so much about, and how much they truly do love you. It makes seeing one another such a huge event, that you almost feel like you need to buy a new outfit every time it happens. It teaches you to never take your human for granted.
You understand that if you can get through loving one another from a distance and staying faithful to them, you can get through anything. Long distance teaches you how to communicate and let your feelings out, because it isn’t easy for either of you, but talking about it can fix so much and make you even stronger. These are the conversations that reinforce your love for one another, even if you already know how obsessed you are.
The trust you form is something that is irreplaceable. You believe in them and understand that you are loved, even from 500+ miles away. You always have something to look forward to! Either a phone call or planning a visit in a month, you make a big deal out of the little things, which is really fun and super adorable.
Temptations? PSH what are those. These relationships are so much more than physical, and when we do get the opportunity to spend time together, we go on adventures or just enjoy the little conversations and laughter. “Friends with benefits” isn’t a thing, LDRs are true, for real love. Being in a long distance relationship has furthered our relationship not only with each other, but more importantly with Jesus Christ. The boundaries we set at the beginning of our relationship have held strong, just as they will continue to do, and I am so proud of that.
Every time you get to see them, it’s like a little vacation. You get the cool adventures, awesome restaurants, and date nights.
LDRs get you to go out, try new things, and meet new people. It reinforces that you cannot go through life with your significant other as your only friend, because you have to form relationships with others, which is so important. You learn how to make sacrifices; time, effort, and plane tickets to see your other half, whatever. You learn what you need to do to keep your sanity. 🙂
Also, you get a heck of a lot more creative. I can now transform a plain, brown, ugly UPS box into a beautiful city, a birthday party in a box, a post it covered “reasons I love you,” or just about anything you can think of.
You can say whatever you want, but I will forever say that this stage in our relationship made us so much stronger. I have cried a lot of tears and called Logan in the middle of a breakdown because I miss him so much, but in the long run, this is what formed us. We will not remember the times we had to say goodbye before the 10 hour drive home, we won’t remember the two month spans without each other, we won’t remember the tears. We will remember the moments we spent together and all the fun we had and the memories we made, because no matter where we are, home is where he is.
Long distance love is something you cannot understand until you have it. But, it definitely is not for everyone. Although, my friends, if you have met the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with, a little long distance is worth it. Once you get to the finish line, you will be the happiest version of yourself there is to be, I pinky promise you.
These are just a few perks, but instead of being mainstream and telling you all the reasons long distance relationships don’t work out, I told you the truth. Of course there are some downsides, but I would’t trade my love for the world.
To my guys and gals in a long distance relationship: you are awesome. You are faithful and if you can make it through this, you can make it through anything. It will come to an end and you will someday wake up by their side on a Saturday morning, just staring at the face you fell in love with, and you will see how truly worth it the entire journey was. How many people can say they made it through an LDR? That should be motivation, right there. Your story is beautiful, keep it goin’.
“Always remember, we are under the same sky looking at the same moon.”
Easy? Not at all. Worth it? Absolutely.